Males vs. Females: Who Screws Up the Relationship More?

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Once upon a time, there lived the sweetest, most beautiful girl in the world. One day, a handsome, strong and highly chivalrous man, known as Prince Charming, came to sweep her off her feet.
He did everything possible to make her happy. He did anything she asked, only had eyes for her and went above and beyond to create the best life possible for them. He was the perfect man.
She in return was there for him and was always the picture of perfection. She looked beautiful every second of the day, stood by his side, whether wrong or right and was never one to question his decisions.
They were the definition of a perfect couple and were the model for how every relationship should be.

COMPLETE BULL!

Life is not a fairy tale; perfect couples do not exist. Some couples spend more time fighting than actually being happy. This is because each individual has their own opinion as to what they believe their perfect mate should be like.
“Tall, but not too tall, in good shape, real sexy, close with his mom, doesn’t lie, doesn’t cheat, is honest about what he’s doing, sweet, but not overly romantic because that annoys me.”
That was the description of UT freshman Abby Homuth’s perfect man. When asked if that’s the kind of guy she’s actually with, her response was, “No. Only when he feels like being that way.”
When it comes to relationships, it is generally believed that there tends to be one person messing things up. Girls claim it’s the guys and guys insist it’s the girls. A campus survey was taken and both sexes were asked why relationships diminish. This is a summary of the results.

Girls say:
Guys are insensitive to how a girl feels and they are way too forgetful. Guys flirt way too much with other girls even when they have a girlfriend and they blame it on their “flirty personality.”
Guys lie about too many things, especially when it comes to where they are, what they’re doing and who they are with.
Jessica Redmond, another UT Freshman, states, “Don’t lie. It’s obvious. Girls can always tell.”
They continued to say guys are bad listeners, immature, hypocritical and need to stop with their “bros before hoes” mentality.
I could not help but agree with some of these statements.

On the other hand, I am also a girl with many male friends and I’m sorry ladies; it’s not always the guy’s fault.
Guys say:
“Girls are way too jealous and they are more hypocritical than guys are.” One male UT student that wished to remain anonymous states,
“If a girl with a boyfriend is out with her friends and they see a good looking guy, it is okay for them to comment on how sexy he is.
Yet, if a guy, who has a girlfriend, is out with his boys and comments about an attractive girl, then there is a problem.”
His friend agreed. “Yeah, chicks think it’s okay to give out their number to guys when they are in a relationship, but if a guy gives out his number or gets a girl’s number then he is considered to be damn near cheating. I believe that’s complete B.S.”

Looking at both sides of this argument it may be easy to pick a side, but for some, not so much.
To put it bluntly, both sexes are egotistical, jealous and hypocritical; therefore, both are to blame.
We all have our idea of what the perfect person for us is supposed to be like, but we tend to find someone who is close enough and subconsciously try to mold them into this idea of perfection.

News flash: that is just NEVER going to work.

Either dump the person you’re with and find someone new or suck it up and deal with their imperfections.
If you decide to get into a relationship and want to try to make things work, then follow these words of advice from Abby Homuth, “Don’t be a douche.”

Plain and simple. And that goes for both sexes.

Good luck loving.

Dominique C. Barchus can be reached at dominique.barchus@spartans.ut.edu